Sunday, February 5, 2017

ADDICTION AND RECOVERY: MEMORIAL TO DWIGHT LEE

LET’S TALK ABOUT…THE LEGACY OF DWIGHT LEE!!! Dwight Lee has been a resident of Eugene/Springfield, OR, since the early eighties. Not only were his treasured twin daughters born here, the transformation of his life took place. He was a dedicated spiritual guide for people on a journey of addiction.

Dwight was born in the small village of New Haven, Michigan, in 1945. Like most people born 1945 to present, Dwight’s small town upbringing set the foundation for coping strategies that he would need to address the changes in the world that would influence his life: the revolutions of the 50’s, 60’s, 70’, including the Civil Rights Movement.

He found his place in sports, primarily as a running back football player starting in high school, all-star Michigan State, including the 1966 Rose Bowl; he eventually was recruited by the San Francisco 49ers, then traded to the Falcons. These are the stories that everyone wanted to hear from Dwight; they were the most difficult stories he would have to repeat as his path continued forward and downward.

Dwight once recalled to me his step by step decline starting as a small town black boy heralded for his size and athleticism, “flung into a limelight where you are treated one way while “performing” for the crowds, and, another way off the field as a young black man” growing up during the civil rights movement.

“When you come from where I did, you don’t know about the temptations coming your way…and, how all those temptations will take everything away from you…”

Dwight would reminisce about the fame and riches that came to him because of his talents, and, how it, all too soon, led him into the path of dark challenges that would eventually lead him to the great man he really was—not a sports figure, but a spiritual guide for others that were led down the pathway to nothing.

Dwight and I had both started working in the field of addictions around the same time. Our paths crossed when we shared an office while working for a treatment center. Dwight immediately became my mentor, my friend, and, eventually, a business partner. When we would get scolded for our “rebel” approaches, Dwight would say:

 “…We don’t work for them (administrators), MAx. We do what we do for the client. They aren’t guiding us, God is guiding us. We always need to do what is right for our client—and God will let us know what that is. You listen to Him, not them.”

When we started a private practice, Della, his beloved wife, wrote these words for Dwight’s bio on the website: “Dwight Lee’s losses to alcoholism and drug addiction were many: a professional football career;…his reputation, self-respect, and freedom; and the near loss of his second wife and twin daughters.  His gains?  A life of consequences, (that led to) working to help recovering addicts and alcoholics and spreading the word of God through his Christian faith.”


DWIGHT LEE
 RIP: 1945-2016
My mentor and an
authentic human being
You lived your journey well,
and,
 you made a difference.
AND SO IT IS!!

Glad we talked about this. Of course, it is just my opinion.

This column is reprinted from the Springfield Times (SpringfieldTimes.net) weekly column "Ask MAx". The Springfield Times is published weekly for Thursday delivery. Subscribe at 541-741-7368.


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